Angry with the Potter?…Embrace the Woman in YOU!!!

In several places in the Bible, we are reminded that God is the Potter and we are like clay in His hands. Romans 9 is one of those places– it speaks of God’s sovereignty as the Creator and how He crafts certain “pots” (that would be us) for honorable use and some for common use.

Growing up, I struggled so much with how I was made… competitive, outspoken, opinionated, and strong-willed. In my mind, I was built more for the debate team than for home-ec., more for basketball than tutus in ballet, sneakers than stilettos. Built more to be the leader than to follow. Built more for greatness & achievement (I thought) in advancing sports medicine than for quietly serving my family in the home. When I was in college, this all came to a head, and I found myself asking God, “WHY DID YOU MAKE ME THIS WAY?!?!?!?!? Why didn’t you make me a man? Why do you tell me to ‘keep a quiet heart’, and to ‘submit’?”

Essentially, I was asking precisely the same question that Paul wrote about in Romans 9:20:

…Who are you, O man, to talk back to God? “Shall what is formed say to him who formed it, ‘Why did you make me like this?’

Recently, I watched a documentary about the beginnings of feminism. I was struck by Elizabeth Cady Stanton’s strong hatred for the weakness of her own gender. She could never please her father, whose valued son had died in a tragic accident, because she was not a man. She had all the “strength” a man was supposed to have, and yet, she was rejected by him for possessing the same strength he had wished for in a son. This lack of acceptance by her own father drove her to extreme lengths to seek approval as a woman from the nation, because she had not received affirmation as a woman from her father.

So many of us find ourselves in this position… particularly after decades of feminist dogma being drilled into our heads. Whether we express it this way or not, there is an underlying feeling that feminism is strong, and femininity is weak. Essentially, we as a generation of young women, like Elizabeth Cady Stanton, have often wished ourselves to be men. And since we can’t do that, we’ll at least try to be seen as the SAME as men, to be treated as the SAME as man, and to do the SAME things that men do. We don’t know why we’re women… we don’t know how to BE women (no one taught us– it wasn’t politically correct, and half of our mothers hadn’t been taught by their mothers!!!)… we don’t know what a woman is supposed to be… and often, we mistake that lack of knowledge for a lack of need to be a woman.
But we forget: there is a Potter. He intentionally crafted each of us for HIS own purposes. And we don’t get to pick that purpose. He gives us a choice, to some degree, of whether or not to submit to His design and purpose. And I fear that many of us, as Christian women, are bucking His design and trying to decide that He was wrong in how He made us.

We try to “Christianize” the teachings of feminism, saying to the men around us, “anything you can do, I can do better”… we just try to cloak it in spiritual-sounding language. We try to do everything we see the women of the world doing: managing a business, managing our husbands, managing our wombs, all the while aiming to never being seen as subject to or weaker than anyone else.

But if we want to ever be content in our own “skin”, we need to know what we were built for. Why did the Potter make us? What are His basic purposes for women? We can look to the Bible, and we can look to biology for clear, though perhaps not politically correct, answers.

(1) TO BE A HELPER & COMPANION & WIFE TO MAN (this was the purpose of the very first woman… she was created because it was not good for man to be alone, see 1 Cor. 11:9)
(2) TO BE A MOTHER (he built it into our very bodies!)

It will do us no good to argue with the Creator. We are not the same as men. He didn’t create us to be so.

Whether or not it’s “p.c.”, we would all do well to remember why women were created– to be a helper and wife, to be a mother, and to ultimately glorify God in our femininity. Instead of bucking against the design of the Potter and raising our fists to the heavens, asking God for an accounting of why He made us as He did, I believe we need to instead look at our design, and develop a love and appreciation for the wisdom and sovereignty of the Potter. It is our privilege to be useful to such a wise and perfect Potter. It should be our delight to submit to His plans for our lives… even if at first they rage against the message we’ve received from the culture.

Let us cast off the worldly philosophies that fill our heads with all kinds of lies about who we are, and who we ought to be, as women. Instead, let’s look to the Potter, and embrace HIS purposes for our lives… laying down our lives to be used by Him as submissive and honorable wives, as faithful and biblical mothers, and as an encourager and teacher of the women who come behind us on the path of faith. Rather than striving to fulfill our own flawed perceptions of why we were made, let us glorify God THROUGH His design for our lives.

© 2011 The GOoD Life. Courtesy of Right The Vision. All Rights Reserved.


25 thoughts on “Angry with the Potter?…Embrace the Woman in YOU!!!

  1. This is definitely something I struggled with in years past. Not anymore! I believe with all my heart that I am fearfully and WONDERFULLY made! I always say, “I am 100% feminine!”

    LOVE IT!!!

  2. This is a great topic because we as women, often struggle with femininity, feminism, and womanhood.Women have been dupped into “the power trap” that eventually resulted in their cynical approach to life and disillusionment in their newfound freedom.

    As Christian women, we have to understand that this didnt start with The Feminism movement, but it started with Satan, who first suggested this lie to Eve in the Garden of Eden (Gen 3:1-8) and prompted her to challenge God’s command to refrain from eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (Gen 2:16-17).

    Embrace being a lady…embrace womanhood..embrace the strength that comes from that. I cant act like a lady and think like a man, because God didnt make me that way….I am a mysteriously marvelous creation…no need to alter it!

  3. Great post! Many women struggle with who they are and who they are purposed to be. But God knows exactly why He created each of us, and it is His will that we seek our purpose in Him, and live life as He intended.

  4. Had to digest this one first… I’ve always exhibited those same attributes even playing sports but never struggled with me from this perspective. This was very enlightening sis…. thank you for being authenic!!!

  5. Sheesh!………Smh……This Is NOT Information………..

    This is Revelation!

    Your writing shows discipline… gives TRUTH (God in all His Attributes) that refutes history (which essentially is another “truth” – lower cased truth for a reason).

    History that repeats itself incorrectly is “truth” in the sense that it is a FACT that came to pass. This does NOT mean that it is TRUTH. TRUTH (Capitalized) is The Ultimate Constant….Unchanging, Unwavering, and Uninfluenced by History.

    I believe Holy Spirit has already revealed it to you, AND is revealing it to ME this way:

    TRUTH Should Influence truth! …..NOT truth (history) influencing TRUTH.

    God made “Woman” to be, as you’ve supported with His Word: a helper – Companion & Wife to man – a mother & to teach other women to do these things.

    I say ALL that to say this simple observation:

    When God’s TRUTH is attained and applied it will alter/influence “truth” to mimic it’s CREATOR.

    This Blog was TRUTH that altered my “truth”…Thanks for being obedient Mrs.Rich. Thank You.
    Healing in Your God Given Words…(^_^)


  6. Awesome post! I could see myself “bucking” & not wanting to be on the wheel…unaware that God was molding me into the woman he created me to be. Thank you

  7. You seriously went so hard on this one. I support this blog 110% in its entirety. If only more women would grasp on to this and embrace. Girl GO you rock proverbs 31 power lol

  8. Awesome post! I think that we all find ourselves struggling to some point in attempt to find self identity, that’s until we’re found ourselves in Him. Once you give your life full heartedly to Christ and know who He is you can therefore know who you are. …A woman of God, FREE…fearfully and wonderfully made in His image. I embrace my role as a Christian wife, future mother, daughter, therapist, trainer, and so much more ALL in His Strength. Keep the positive…thought provoking post coming!

  9. Precisely what all of us (women) need to hear! There is a reason we were pulled OUT of masculinity && formed INTO femininity!! Great write, hon!!! 🙂

  10. Very well written & researched! I do believe in the bible & therefore believe that God created us not to rule the land but to nurture the souls. Women have strayed away from this principle historically because of the degrading attitudes of men. When the woman felt used & unappreciated, overpowered by the demands of the man, she in turn sought independence & power of her own. It takes the man knowing & respecting the intended role of the women to create the balance. I appreciate that God can bless many to maintain the home & nurture as He intended all while managing corporate goals according to His will. Amazing post sis!!

  11. Well written post… Finally understanding what my mother used to tell me as a young girl, growing up in a very traditional african home, my mum always encouraged me to humble myself, embrace my femininity and not feel the need to compete with my brothers. She always used to say and she still says it now ‘just be a woman, that’s what God created you for’ thanx sis for this thought provoking, eye opening post!

  12. Awesome post and perspective. It is so true that many of us have been groomed into an altered understanding of the role of a woman. This is magnified for those of us raised in single parent homes…. where momma had to play both roles. Accidentally, many single mothers exhibit and take on the “man’s mentality”. But as we gain a deeper relationship with Christ and digest the Word, it becomes evident that our purpose is clear. Its safe to say that “feminism” for some of us is a generational curse. Thanks for sharing… this was definitely necessary.

  13. This post was very encouraging and enlightening. I can relate very well to question the “Potter” about making me into someone else. God has recently given me one scripture in particular to answer all of my questions. Ephesians 2:10 (NLT) “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago”.

    Thank you for posting your link on Twitter! May God continue to use you “Richly” for His Glory. Blessings on you!

  14. Great post! What a perfect reminder that it’s OK to be feminine. There is so much freedom in embracing how God created us. And you’re right… most of us don’t have a clue how to be a woman, because we were never TRULY taught. But as we submit to Christ, we can become more of who and what He has fashioned us to be.

    Women are beautifully different and absolutely equal to men. We got it twisted when we started trying to be the same as men. In my opinion, this has been the catalyst for much of the financial instability of our country. But let me stop while I’m ahead ’cause I could write a whole dissertation about that!

    Anywho, thanks so much for sharing this with me! It was on point and very insightful!

  15. Good stuff woman of God!! I appreciate this read on many levels. From a male perspective, if we could understand that our historical misuse of the woman and her feminine purpose has also aided in much of the maladies of this article, we could assist in the healing. Thanks for boldly sharing your experiences and offering viable principles for solutions! A challenge to women to appreciate who they’ve been made to be, but also a challenge to us men to rethink some of the ways we’ve approached how we’ve handled (correctly and incorrectly) women- we (men) have a role to play in this as well!.

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